It seems like it’s for you, but really it’s for me
December 17, 2017 § Leave a comment
My boyfriend doesn’t post photos of us on social media, should i break up with him?
Ah, the age old question specially brought to you by social media. As many blogs or forums might tell you, ask him. You’re not wrong to feel this way, but it won’t help you much if you just stew over it! But what they don’t tell you, is what do you do if he doesn’t have a good reason.
I experienced the same thing before (as many who went through it themselves). Initially, I thought his lack of posting was because he was just one of those people who never used social media.
Except he still post about every other aspect about his life.
Wait, okay, but he doesn’t want post his dates, or girlfriend either!
Or does he (not)?
When I initially questioned him (it is the right thing to do!) about this issue, he plainly stated that he doesn’t like to post such stuff.
This reason is legitimate itself, so I didn’t think much and moved on in my life.
However, several months later, I realised that HE DID post such stuff before, but oh, just not of me, but of his ex.
Specifically the one before me.
Was I upset?
When I did ask him about my new discovery, he said he used to, however, he changed his mindset prior to meeting me.
Again, I don’t fault this mindset, but it makes me question how easy it was for him to change his mindset in less than a year (we dated two months after they broke up).
This also questions his honesty to me, and shadiness in the matter. Why couldn’t you just tell me from the start? Why let me dig? Also, you claimed to delete old photos, but you clearly didn’t.
Though we’ve broken up, I took a look back, and realised it’s almost as if I didn’t exist in his life. All remnants of her still on display, while me, not even a trace.
I don’t know bout you, but till this day, I can’t help but feel hurt and belittle in that relationship. Though it’s a small issue, he managed to hurt me time and time again. I felt unworthy to be shown off, and that our relationship clearly didn’t mean smack to him despite how much he say it does.
Well, eitherways, I’m glad I got out of it. Someone who truly supports me and love me would never made me feel this way.
P.s so much for my advise column LOL